Anger Management

Anybody can advise you that when you are angry, take a deep breath, a moment of silence, don't do anything until your mind settles down etc.. I think this is easy said than done. Because when you are angry.. it is very hard to control yourself.

The way to achieve this, is a long process of training our mind.

• We need to understand the consequences of anger by our heart. Just by revisiting all situations that we were angry, and again don't defend why you were angry, but just see the effects, like physical wounds, emotional turmoil lasting for days, relationship breakups.. etc. Once this goes deep inside your mind, you will be more kinder than you were before.
• In the above step, I mentioned that 'don't defend why you were angry'.. We always think what we did is right, and we can always defend ourselves by giving reasons for being angry.. First We need to be open in this regard and be ready to take the blame on yourself for being angry. To our surprise most of the time we are the reason for mishandling situations.
• Most of the time we are angry because of our ego. We have a limited knowledge base and we think that what we know is the ultimate truth. Many a time we get angry because somebody said opposite to what we believe is right. Again we need to be open to anything an everything, don't take it as right or wrong just receive it as it is.
• From now on try to watch yourself all the time and especially watch yourself or be conscious when you are entering hot situations, don't try to control anger and just do whatever you feel is right at that moment, but be conscious always. In the first few situations you could be behaving as you were before you started being conscious. But as the time pass, you could feel the difference.